Mindfulness: Are You Here?

Most of us have seen the photo of the man walking his dog showing the comparison of what is going on in each mind respectively: Mind Full vs. Mindful. The man’s mind is filled to the brim with external thoughts penetrating his walk, while the dog is able to have minimal thoughts and enjoy the walk and space around them.

In this day and age we all struggle with the ability to stay present. We are surrounded with distractions and external stimulation. We are almost always plugged into our phones, tablets, computers, television, radio, you name it and most of us use it. These external factors draw us out of the present moment by distracting us from engaging in what is truly around us.

When we make plans with our friends to go out for dinner but everyone sits down and immediately pulls out their phones; are we really spending that much needed time with our friends? We have removed ourselves from that present moment and decided that we no longer care to interact with those around us.

So, how do we go about staying present? First and foremost, we must be mindful. Like the dog! Being mindful and recognizing the triggers that distract us the most is the first step. Next, we need to find out how to remove these distractions or at least try to minimize them. It is time to set some rules!

I will provide you with some examples of how I have been working to stay present and mindful. Maybe you can pull from my ideas and formulate the perfect boundaries of your own Or, maybe you come up with something brand new That is the magic of this, there is no magic answer. We must experiment and find what works best for each of us!

 Trigger 1: My phone – waking up in the morning and immediately looking at my e-mail.
 Rule: The first thing I do when I wake up is not grab my phone to check my e-mail, but instead I grab my phone, open my Headspace app and do guided meditation for at least 10 minutes.
 Trigger 2: TV – when we get home from work at night it is so easy to plop on the couch, turn the TV on and zone out. Barely even communicate with those around us.
 Rule: We will only watch TV on the weekends and use our weekday evenings to be more productive in self development and relationship development.

Again, these are only my examples to get your wheels turning! But please explore other avenues and if you find something that works for you, share it with others! It just may be the idea they need to improve their quality of life as well.

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Coach Laura